Everyone at some time loses their temper, and anger is a very necessary emotion in many ways, but sometimes it becomes necessary to learn to control your anger, before it completely controls you. If you find that you are having problems dealing with anger, then there are some simple positive ways in which you can help yourself to re-take control of your emotions. Sometimes it is important just to take a deep breath and count to ten, giving yourself just that little bit of space between you and the situation, and at the other extreme it may be necessary to seek professional help, either on line or in person, but there are things which you can definitely do to help yourself in the mean time.
Do you know someone who always tries to see the positive or the funny side of life? Someone who always tries to smile, even when the chips are down? I bet you do, and I bet that person doesn’t have problems dealing with anger, that’s because humour can actually help, so by developing your own sense of humour and trying to copy this behaviour you can actually help to control your own anger.
Another effective way of dealing with anger is simply to change your environmental situation. This can mean something as simple as lighting candles around the place instead of harsh lights, or going for a walk when a situation becomes tense and you can feel that you are going to blow. By avoiding these situations you can actually learn to control your anger, and come back again when you are maybe feeling in a better frame of mind to deal with it. It is important to learn to relax and recharge your batteries and you can then meet the world in a calmer, more positive state of mind.
I’ve chosen to share this bit of information with you guys today because for the past few days, I have been challenged by a bunch of different situations which I could probably handle individually, but when everything comes at me at once, I tend to get defensive and find a way to defend myself at all costs. It’s probably one of my worst qualities and I really need to learn how to let things slide, but it’s going to be a process and I will definitely try. That’s why I took a deep breath, counted backwards from 10 and started to write down my thoughts. For some reason, writing has always calmed me down. I love to write. My next article is going to be titled Difficult Yesterday and Even Worse Today. So please be on the lookout for that so that you can understand what has been triggering me for the past few days.
But in the meantime, I’d really like to hear about you guys and start getting to know all of you. What have been some situations where you have felt triggered? What do you do to cope or get through the situation? Are you a glass half full or half empty kind of person? Do you tend to be calm or combative?
Click on that comment button guys and let me know how you respond to stressful situations.